🐾 Skye Says…"What Should I Say?"

One of the first things I've noticed about humans is that when someone is hurting, everyone worries about saying the right thing.

You know what I've learned?

The people who are grieving aren't usually looking for perfect words. They're looking for people who are willing to stay. I don't have words at all.

When someone is sad, I simply walk over, sit beside them, lean in, and let them know they aren't alone. Somehow, that seems to help. You can do the same.

Instead of searching for the perfect sentence, try offering your presence.

You might say:

• "I'm so sorry you're going through this."

• "I'm here with you."

• "I don't have the right words, but I care about you."

• "Would you like to tell me about what's been happening?"

• "I'm thinking of you today."

And after they share, remember something important:

You don't have to fix their grief.

You don't have to explain it.

You don't have to make it better.

Your job is simply to let them know they don't have to carry it alone.

That's what good friends do.That's what caring neighbors do.That's what loving families, thoughtful coworkers, compassionate teachers, kind coaches, and faithful church communities do. They show up.

🐾 Skye's Takeaway

When you're wondering, "What should I say?"...

Start with this:

Say less. Care more. Stay longer.

Sometimes the greatest comfort isn't found in the words we speak.

It's found in the fact that we stayed.